Comments on the Typical dot com: The Throwaway Attitude

Glad you're moving forward with your blog, hop...

2010-01-13T00:31:01.259-08:00

Glad you're moving forward with your blog, hopefully I'll get to read it soon.

oops, never finished my thought. oh well. thanks...

2010-01-12T10:27:48.354-08:00

oops, never finished my thought. oh well.

thanks for the advice on blogging. i've decided on Wordpress. : )

there does come a time when we have to distinguish...

2010-01-08T22:32:20.892-08:00

there does come a time when we have to distinguish between the romance of love and the reality of long-term, decades-long intimacy.

perhaps, instead of yearning after our own versions of fairy-tale endings, we should instead advocate the fairy-tale beginning. enjoy the moment, be romanced! those initial butterflies and the novelty of it all...will never return.

it can, however, be replaced with something sweeter, something based on deep familiarity and trust and the unbelievable opportunity to get to know somebody with complete intimacy and to see their faults and flaws and contradictions, and if not embrace them, learn how to tolerate them.

the problem is, few people achieve this kind of mature love. people want sashimi, not the rice or water.

Don't know where the "forever" idea ...

2009-11-10T00:20:08.625-08:00

Don't know where the "forever" idea came from, but to be honest, I write these things in bulk long before they get posted, and I am too lazy to re-read my own stuff at the moment. I don't recall mentioning that though... but maybe you had that Chris Brown song stuck in your head... goddamn wedding entrance youtube video...

But basically, the definition of "it" should be different for everyone.
If you are playing by your own rules, then you should get to decide what "it" is...
If you still can't, then you've somehow failed at your own game. Once you're happy, take a look back at how you got there and maybe you'll see it. It's not always about pretending to know what's gonna happen before it does.

I had a response, but it was too deep and wordy. ...

2009-11-08T14:18:31.937-08:00

I had a response, but it was too deep and wordy. Instead, here's a knowledge bomb or two:

1) Forever is an illusion. At best, you get 80 years with someone. At worst, month(?).
2) There is no "it". We're all pretending to know because we don't want to be left out. We're all delusional.

Some people can't imagine being this cynical, but I think it's a liberating mindset. It means that I don't have to abide by all social rules. (Especially if they are based on fairytales) I can make my own.